Comments on: Self-esteem soap opera? http://sweatitout.wordpress.com/2008/05/19/self-esteem-soap-opera/ A blog discussing self-esteem, personal power, and empowerment with witty and hip commentary. Thu, 20 Aug 2009 11:58:56 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: heidiloebach http://sweatitout.wordpress.com/2008/05/19/self-esteem-soap-opera/#comment-237 heidiloebach Mon, 19 May 2008 21:57:53 +0000 http://sweatitout.wordpress.com/?p=156#comment-237 I think part of what Matt was touching on was the whole idea of ad nauseam validation. A lot of parents and teachers seem to be on this kick of trying to improve kids' self-esteem by rewarding them and praising them to the extreme. I think that there comes a point where this inflated sense of self-importance (note: not self-esteem) can be problematic. Unearned rewards can present children with a skewed view of reality. I think part of what Matt was touching on was the whole idea of ad nauseam validation. A lot of parents and teachers seem to be on this kick of trying to improve kids’ self-esteem by rewarding them and praising them to the extreme. I think that there comes a point where this inflated sense of self-importance (note: not self-esteem) can be problematic. Unearned rewards can present children with a skewed view of reality.

]]> By: Megan http://sweatitout.wordpress.com/2008/05/19/self-esteem-soap-opera/#comment-236 Megan Mon, 19 May 2008 19:22:00 +0000 http://sweatitout.wordpress.com/?p=156#comment-236 First, if he is going to be backing his opinions up with "academic studies" then he needs to provide citations and show diverse findings, no the findings that support his opinion. I am concerned for Matt as a person, he says "Self-esteem doesn’t make us better people; it just makes us more intolerable." This is a very harsh and inaccurate knowledge and understanding of self-esteem, especially for a 2nd year psy. major. Actually, self-esteem Matt, helps us accept ourselves and subsequently others with kindness and gentleness. If we are selves feel adqeuate in a society where we are constantly we are not good enough, self-esteem warrants positive effects. As for his take on aging, I'm not even going to get into that. Human beings are not disposable emotionally and physically because of age. Matt needs some more life experience before he starts sharing his very status quo uncompassionate beliefs. First, if he is going to be backing his opinions up with “academic studies” then he needs to provide citations and show diverse findings, no the findings that support his opinion. I am concerned for Matt as a person, he says “Self-esteem doesn’t make us better people; it just makes us more intolerable.” This is a very harsh and inaccurate knowledge and understanding of self-esteem, especially for a 2nd year psy. major.

Actually, self-esteem Matt, helps us accept ourselves and subsequently others with kindness and gentleness. If we are selves feel adqeuate in a society where we are constantly we are not good enough, self-esteem warrants positive effects.

As for his take on aging, I’m not even going to get into that. Human beings are not disposable emotionally and physically because of age. Matt needs some more life experience before he starts sharing his very status quo uncompassionate beliefs.

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